Dealbreakers.

Sexi wrote:

Really? No girl is worth any behavior modification? I'm gonna go ahead and say that I'd be willing to modify my behavior for the right guy, to the extent that it made me a better and more enjoyable person.

even a full personality transplant couldn't help you in modifying your less than agreeable persona

joshie enjoyed shagging you but it ddin't make you a better person ya fucking harpie

ouch!!! that even hurt me. pobresita .

i'm with you on that one though sexi. i would change for the better for the right guy.

not much mind you, but still...

Dealbreaker

Ugly feet

Smelly clothes (sweat)

Overly drunk chick

And for some reason i hate the girls that just take too much care of themselves, i appreciate she straightens her hair and smells nice but when they have to stay still all night to mantain that image its just boring

Sexi wrote:

Really? No girl is worth any behavior modification? I'm gonna go ahead and say that I'd be willing to modify my behavior for the right guy, to the extent that it made me a better and more enjoyable person.

No, because it's not realistic that a girl would change her behavior for a guy. Not in the way that so many guys act to please a girl.

I am me. There is not point in hiding that.

...How old are you? Do you even date real girls? Or is this just some stereotype you are getting from movies?

I'm not trying to jump all over you, but honestly, that sounds really immature and inexperienced. If you honestly don't think a girl will try to change for a guy that she is truly interested in, if it's an important issue for the guy, then you must not actually know any girls very well. And relationships aren't about "pleasing" the other person in the way that you mean. They're about yes, being who you are, but also realizing that everyone has flaws, and wanting to work on your flaws because you love the person you're with and you want to be worthy of them.

"I am me" sounds very self-assured and bold, but it's selfish. No one wants to date someone who thinks they are the perfectly formed person already and will never change. I know that for my last boyfriend, I had to face certain parts about myself (such as manipulating people, including him) and I had to realize that I needed to stop doing them. And I know that I changed him as well. But it was a good process. We both wanted to be better. When you're alone, you don't push yourself to be better. It's when you're with someone who you love that you do that.

If you want specific examples, I can give those to you.

All of a relationship's questions can be settled in this quote, by love master....Rocky Balboa.

Rocky: I dunno, she's got gaps, I got gaps, together we fill gaps.

If he was smarter, i might say that he was trying to be clever...

Sexi wrote:

...How old are you? Do you even date real girls? Or is this just some stereotype you are getting from movies?

I'm not trying to jump all over you, but honestly, that sounds really immature and inexperienced. If you honestly don't think a girl will try to change for a guy that she is truly interested in, if it's an important issue for the guy, then you must not actually know any girls very well. And relationships aren't about "pleasing" the other person in the way that you mean. They're about yes, being who you are, but also realizing that everyone has flaws, and wanting to work on your flaws because you love the person you're with and you want to be worthy of them.

"I am me" sounds very self-assured and bold, but it's selfish. No one wants to date someone who thinks they are the perfectly formed person already and will never change. I know that for my last boyfriend, I had to face certain parts about myself (such as manipulating people, including him) and I had to realize that I needed to stop doing them. And I know that I changed him as well. But it was a good process. We both wanted to be better. When you're alone, you don't push yourself to be better. It's when you're with someone who you love that you do that.

You cna't change people and expect a relationship to work. It's about being with someone despite their flaws. If you can deal with their flaws, great! If not, it's time to move on.

Oh my lord.

t1riel.....

im sorry, but you're wrong.

it's a common behavior characteristic to socially adapt. Some of it is even subconscious. Which means, you're going to change whether you like it or not.

On the conscious side of things, If you want to make something work, you make adjustments, and that's part of sustaining a successful relationship.

Did you even read Sexi's post btw? Your response gave little or no reason why it was even necessary to quote her post.

um. i don't know about sexi, but when i said change, i mean little things for the better. a good relationship is one that brings out the best in you.

Then you're on Dan's and my side, sweetie.

haha yupp yupp.

Dan052 wrote:

Did you even read Sexi's post btw? Your response gave little or no reason why it was even necessary to quote her post.

He's just jaded Dan, like a lot guys who had bad experiences with women are.

Sexi wrote:

...How old are you? Do you even date real girls? Or is this just some stereotype you are getting from movies?

I'm not trying to jump all over you, but honestly, that sounds really immature and inexperienced. If you honestly don't think a girl will try to change for a guy that she is truly interested in, if it's an important issue for the guy, then you must not actually know any girls very well. And relationships aren't about "pleasing" the other person in the way that you mean. They're about yes, being who you are, but also realizing that everyone has flaws, and wanting to work on your flaws because you love the person you're with and you want to be worthy of them.

"I am me" sounds very self-assured and bold, but it's selfish. No one wants to date someone who thinks they are the perfectly formed person already and will never change. I know that for my last boyfriend, I had to face certain parts about myself (such as manipulating people, including him) and I had to realize that I needed to stop doing them. And I know that I changed him as well. But it was a good process. We both wanted to be better. When you're alone, you don't push yourself to be better. It's when you're with someone who you love that you do that.

If you want specific examples, I can give those to you.

I have massive flaws. I am inexperienced. My parents divorce has ruined my sister and I to the point that we can't have relationships. We have horrible trust issues that I just can't see getting resolved. I'm not trying to cry my own river I'm just saying unless I experience that like life altering love like in the movies I can't see myself changing.

And I don't know how old you are, perhaps your old enough that you realize that your entering the age where you might possibly find yourself spending the rest of your life with some you meet in the near future. But I'm 19 and at this point all relationships I know are about pleasing. People don't try to "make things work". They just go off and start fucking someone else.

Dan052 wrote:

t1riel.....

im sorry, but you're wrong.

it's a common behavior characteristic to socially adapt. Some of it is even subconscious. Which means, you're going to change whether you like it or not.

On the conscious side of things, If you want to make something work, you make adjustments, and that's part of sustaining a successful relationship.

I'm probably wrong and my opinion doesn't really hold any weight so don't get bent out of shape over it. If you are willing to change and want to make something work, you can deal with the significant other's flaws. If you can't, there is no point in continuing the relationship.